I think sometimes it can be helpful to have goals. They can help focus you and give you a direction to go in. So I thought today I would blog about my goals, in part so you guys can help keep me accountable. But just in part, as well, because I think goals show what is important to you. So I hope it gives you an insight into my mind.
Get something published in the next five years. Last fall I had my first taste of what it felt like to be a published author. And let me say that I loved it – I thought it was wonderful and it gave me such a sense of accomplishment because being published is one of the end goals for a writer. I would love to be published again. I know it will take work, but hopefully I will be able to cross this off my list.
Buy my own domain and be self hosted within the next five years. I really want to take this blog places and get serious about it and part of that is buying my own domain and being self hosted. I know it’s not expensive, but part of me is not ready to take that leap for a couple of reasons. First of all, I need to prove to myself that I’m going to be serious about it – I don’t want to pay for something I’m not going to use. Second of all, I really need to decide on a new name for my blog. Suggestions? I’m really open to them, so help me figure out a new name!
Attend at least one blog conference within the next five years. Of course, my first preference is BlogHer. I’ve heard nothing but good things about it. And I just learned it is in Chicago next year, so maybe this one is more attainable than I think? What’s holding me back is finances – I have a hard time justifying spending so much on doing something like that. Well, I have a hard time justifying spending money on myself for any reason. Plus, I do not know what I would do with little guy being gone for so long. Either I would have to bring him to Chicago with me or leave him with Nick who works or possibly with his grandparents? Who knows – at any rate, it’s just a dream for right now, because I don’t feel like realistically it’s in reach because of finances.
Change someone’s life. Okay, granted, this one is the most ambiguous, but I think it’s something I want to do. I want to make a real difference in someone’s life. So many people have changed my life – I want to be able to give something back. And I want to do it for the better.
Continue to be open about my experience with marriage and motherhood. It is my personal opinion that we don’t talk enough about marriage and motherhood. Oh sure, we talk about it but what I mean is we don’t talk honestly enough about what it’s really like in the nitty gritty. We don’t often get past the surface level when we talk about it. Well I want to change that – I want to talk more openly and honestly about it to create a culture where people are unafraid to share their real struggles, their real questions, and their real joy.
Improve my cooking and find a way to cook for more people. I get such satisfaction out of cooking something well. It makes me feel so accomplished. Plus, it’s tasty. Also, I love to cook for people because I feel like it’s a way I can take care of people. Well fed people are happy people. I just feel such joy in serving other people in this way.
Take more pictures. I feel like unless I’m in an extraordinary situation, I tend not to take pictures. Yes of course, I want to have pictures of the special times, but I realized I also want to have pictures of the ordinary times. I want to remember the every day little smiles my son gives me and the little things he does. I want to remember the special but ordinary times with Nick. I don’t have a lot of pictures of little guy when he’s super little and I am a little sad about this. It just wasn’t a priority at the time, but it is a priority now. It helps that I have a new phone that takes pictures much easier, otherwise this might not happen, because honestly I’m a minimal girl. It was a hassle for me to carry around my camera everywhere, so most of the time it just didn’t come with me. But my phone comes everywhere with me, which means much more pictures (and videos) are getting taken. And it’s great.
So there you have it, those are my goals? What do you think? Do you have any advice or help to offer on these? What are your goals?
I just have two other things to add. Yesterday in WI, there was a shooting at a Sikh temple. My heart is deeply saddened by it, especially since it happened in my home state. I’ve been watching the news all morning and it’s just so sad. Even though I disagree with other people’s religions, I still can’t help but hold to the thinking that places of worship should be special places, where people are allowed to feel safe. The shooter violated that when he opened fire in the temple yesterday. And it is so heartbreaking. But it is encouraging to me to see the outpouring of support towards this group by the community. Because people could choose to say they don’t look like me and so I don’t care that this happened to them. But it hasn’t been like that at all. I will continue to pray that they can experience healing.
Second of all, my little guy is three months old today! I can’t believe it’s been three months already because it doesn’t seem like it’s been that long. I love him and he is such a joy. It’s true, sometimes I get frustrated, especially about being spit up on. That I don’t like very much and sometimes I am like, “How can you possibly have anything more left to spit up in your stomach?” But overall, he is just wonderful. He rolled over 4 times this weekend (and hasn’t done it since haha). Anyways, happy 3 months to you little guy. I’ll leave you with a picture of him sleeping on daddy’s shoulder at a wedding we went to last week.